Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Three Cheers And Dammit

My sister, Dale, died at the age of 29. So, three years later, when I made it to the age of 30, I heaved a  huge sigh of relief and said to myself, "I'm still here."

ALL-ABOUT-ME DAY 2015.
AT HOME ON THE BEACH IN LOS BOLICHES, FUENGIROLA, MÁLAGA.

My father died five years after my sister. He was only 60. I may have outlasted Dale but I often wondered if I'd outlast my father. I'd lecture myself about positive thinking and the self-fulfilling prophesy. I'd win some battles but, admittedly, I never won the war.

Well, I got through all of last year, today is my 61st birthday, and I'm here!


Lord knows at least I was there...

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  1. Woohoo and congratulations! Good, kind people like you should live long healthy and happy lives

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    1. Ms Sparrow:
      I can't thank you enough for your kindness. It's been a good birthday!

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  2. Mitchell, Happy Birthday and many happy returns

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  3. Glad you are still here, Mitchell! Happy Birthday and many happy returns of the day.

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    1. Wilma:
      So am I, Wilma! And it wasn't always that way. Thanks.

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  4. ♫ ♪ Happy Happy Birthday ♪ ♫


    ... and many more!

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    1. Bob:
      Such a beautiful voice. I had no idea. Thanks!

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  5. Yeah! yes you are still here , and living the life you want... how sweet is that!
    I <3 U cuz... Like "They" say.. your cousins were always your First friends!

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  6. BTW... next milestone is still going strong so we know you'll pass 85! :-)

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    1. Thanks my sweet cousin! It was so good talking with you in February. I think the concern about my survival is past.

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  7. Happy Birthday Mitchell!!!
    Oh those 'family milestones'.......my Dad will be 99 next week, I try to be as positive as I can but.......lol
    Have a wonderful evening and celebrate your butt off!!

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    1. Jim:
      Whew! 99. I am not even going to think about that. Can't wait to read about your celebration. Thanks so much.

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  8. Happy Birthday MITCH!

    36 years old was my goal because my father died at that age. I have almost doubled that, another 7 years to go, fingers crossed.

    You have beautiful teeth! There ~~ I said it!

    Winks!
    Ron

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    1. Ron:
      Isn't it awful what we do to ourselves? Maybe one of these days we'll truly be able to live in the moment and not worry about the things we have absolutely no control over. As for teeth... Thank you for that. I've spent most of my life hating my teeth.

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  9. Congratulations on this your special day. Happy Birthday.

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  10. Glad you are still here. Feliz cumpleaños , amigo.

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    1. Ah, Michael, I'm glad too. And so grateful to have connected with you. Muchas gracias!

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  11. Happy happy birthday, young man!

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    1. Judith:
      Thank you for giving me another reason to be grateful this year!

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  12. You're still here, with your gorgeous smile and kind heart, and the world is a better place for it. Happy Birthday hermoso corazon!
    Again, loved the music, dammit! ;-)

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    1. Jacqueline:
      Hermoso corazón! I love that and thank you from the bottom of it.

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  13. Happy Birthday. Oh, to be 61 again!

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    1. Frank:
      Everything's relative, I guess. But I hope I look as good as you when I'M 62!

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    1. OK, Mysterious Cousin (aka Kenosha Kid), I THINK I know who you are (I've read the old blogs... a creative independent-minded, non-traditional thinker who writes... that rules out quite a few people). But please let me know for sure. (So I can slap you on the head and tell you you're not really all that far behind!)

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  15. Many happy returns. I am past the age when my father was first diagnosed with cancer. At times I feel like I am on bonus years.

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    1. Andrew:
      It's funny that I don't look at it as bonus years, which is kind of nice. I just feel like the pressure is off. So strange.

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  16. And a gracious HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you! :)

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    1. Walt the Fourth:
      Aw thanks. I work out all the kinks long before you reach this point.

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  17. If you saw my comment on your previous post, Mitch, you'll have seen that I managed to get my wishes in on the actual day. But if you didn't, and even though it's now one day later, it's no hardship at all to wish you all the very best again, though for yesterday.
    Now do be careful at your advanced age. At the rate you're going you'll soon catch up with me - but I'll try my darnedest to keep ahead (currently by nearly 8 years).

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    1. Ray:
      I did and I was so touched that I was someone you had on your list! You probably should have given me advance notice. I didn't remember until Sunday that my birthday was Tuesday. I hope you will keep ahead of me for many years to come!

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  18. Happy birthday! You are looking great at 61.

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    1. Mwa:
      Thanks! I don't know who Mwa is, but I know what Mwa means. And I'm grateful!

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  19. And long may you continue to be here!! Hope your day was great and you look waaaay younger than 61. I remember you writing about your sister before. She died far too young. Your Dad, too. My parents were gone by 61 and 64 and I really hope I do better than that myself!

    You look mahvelous! Whatever you'e doing, keep it up!

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    1. Knatolee:
      I hope you don't dwell on the milestones like I did. Every day is a gift (although some days I wouldn't mind an exchange).

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  20. Happy Birthday, Mitchell. You sound like a friend of mine who thinks it is amazing that he has lasted this long, and he is 75!

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    1. Linda:
      My mother would say your friend is just a kid!

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  21. And, we're all so glad for it!
    I have to say, the blue of that towel, against the colors of your skin and beard, with the dark spots of the sunglasses -- it's really a remarkably beautiful photograph, just in and of itself (even if we didn't know the great guy whose face it is).

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    1. Judy:
      Thanks so much. I was surprised by how much I loved the photo (I hate most photos of me). A beach selfie with my smartphone. Staring directly into the sun, so I had no idea what was on the screen. No Photoshop. Just cropped and placed. I do love that blue. I'm always looking for shirts in that color.

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  22. As always I am late to the conga line of congratulations to wish you not only many happy returns but may this next year be your best one yet!
    I often tell my patients to play this song on this birthday. I do. every year.

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    1. Spo:
      I've been late to just about every conga line lately. It was a very good birthday and I love this song!

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